Our second day in the country, out host had some family business to take care of in their home province, we were fortunate enough to ride along on a very beautiful road trip to Panjshir.
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Sunday, July 5
First Afghan road trip! Panjshir
From the airport, our awesome host Ayoob brought us to his house and showed us essentially and entire floor of the house that the family of 15 had cleared for us to take residence in. The generosity of this family over the past weeks cannot be understated- they have insisted on treating us with such hospitality as both treasured guests and family, it has been quite humbling.
Our second day in the country, out host had some family business to take care of in their home province, we were fortunate enough to ride along on a very beautiful road trip to Panjshir.
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Our second day in the country, out host had some family business to take care of in their home province, we were fortunate enough to ride along on a very beautiful road trip to Panjshir.
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Tuesday, July 17
Work soothes the soul
I'm in the middle of a brilliantly satisfying and beyond exhaustive (90+ hours/week) summer job working to help train new teachers. It's fantastic. Nothing like hard, meaningful work to keep the focus clear. Not to mention that in California, it seems that the sun always shines and the temperature is perfect. LOVE IT.
The one thing I could use less of is what seems to be a constant stream of "surprise homecoming videos" and jubilant, rambling daily posts on Facebook about each way you enjoy having your deployed spouse back. Listen friends, some of us are still waiting. I am really very very happy for you. And I will be happy for me when I'm there, but please consider your audience... like the folks who supported you when your person was far away.
Now back to the work- see what I mean? It's great to not be able to dwell.=) Hugs and happy from California!
Countdown: 187
The one thing I could use less of is what seems to be a constant stream of "surprise homecoming videos" and jubilant, rambling daily posts on Facebook about each way you enjoy having your deployed spouse back. Listen friends, some of us are still waiting. I am really very very happy for you. And I will be happy for me when I'm there, but please consider your audience... like the folks who supported you when your person was far away.
Now back to the work- see what I mean? It's great to not be able to dwell.=) Hugs and happy from California!
Countdown: 187
Wednesday, March 14
Tide out, tide in
So, the fabulous news is that I have a) acquired summer work and b) almost completely navigated through house negotiations to arrive at a sale. And of course, after months of waiting and watching, above events happened within a day of each other.
I have discovered that the lovely hubs and I seem to have different processing for future stressful/intense events. I internalize immediately and begin my freakout, tapering off somewhere right before or shortly after said event. For example, deployment. Orders issued about three months before the move: instant Shannon implosion. I was still functional and mostly normal but it only took a tiny trigger to send me into worry mode- sappy movies, terrible commercials, a particularly nice day... bizarrely almost anything. It has been more or less steady suck until about a month after the deployment began and while things are still not fun, I feel like I've already put all my stress and worst-case-scenario thinking in and have exhausted my stash of worry. The recent bad news of Koran burnings has caused some stress, but honestly I've already been through most of it already. Which is kind of nice.
On the other hand, it seems that the hubs does less of this pre-projected worrying. Not to make a value judgement on it or say he's not aware of roughly the same things that have freaked me out for months, but it seems to be dealt with on a more case-by-case basis. Perhaps this is an evolutionary advantage- if we both hit the stress-ball stage at the same time, who is there to be reassuring? I find this pattern emerges in most of our major decisions, and in some ways I find it amusing- "Oh, I've stopped having nightmares about buying the wrong house and being trapped forever? About time for hubs to start voicing some concerns." I find it quite amusing now that I'm calming down overall.
Anyone else find this a trend in your partnerships?
Vocab of the day:
Military: CIP = Community Involvement Plan
I have discovered that the lovely hubs and I seem to have different processing for future stressful/intense events. I internalize immediately and begin my freakout, tapering off somewhere right before or shortly after said event. For example, deployment. Orders issued about three months before the move: instant Shannon implosion. I was still functional and mostly normal but it only took a tiny trigger to send me into worry mode- sappy movies, terrible commercials, a particularly nice day... bizarrely almost anything. It has been more or less steady suck until about a month after the deployment began and while things are still not fun, I feel like I've already put all my stress and worst-case-scenario thinking in and have exhausted my stash of worry. The recent bad news of Koran burnings has caused some stress, but honestly I've already been through most of it already. Which is kind of nice.
On the other hand, it seems that the hubs does less of this pre-projected worrying. Not to make a value judgement on it or say he's not aware of roughly the same things that have freaked me out for months, but it seems to be dealt with on a more case-by-case basis. Perhaps this is an evolutionary advantage- if we both hit the stress-ball stage at the same time, who is there to be reassuring? I find this pattern emerges in most of our major decisions, and in some ways I find it amusing- "Oh, I've stopped having nightmares about buying the wrong house and being trapped forever? About time for hubs to start voicing some concerns." I find it quite amusing now that I'm calming down overall.
Anyone else find this a trend in your partnerships?
Vocab of the day:
Military: CIP = Community Involvement Plan
Sunday, January 3
Post-holiday post
A close and brilliant friend in law school informed me over the break that I was slacking severely in blog posting, and if she has time to tell me this, it must be quite bad. So a few reflections from the break for your procrastination/browsing pleasure...
I'm resolving to write every day in 2010, either for my own eyes or here. We shall see what comes of that.
One thing that became very clear throughout the first married holiday is that marriage seems to flip a switch in parents' heads. Somehow in our one month engagement and quasi shotgun wedding, the hubs and I went from children to part of the married club. It was a series of small indicators that shaped this realization- fewer questions asked, more of the "us big people" tone and conversation. I don't think these things were done consciously (other than having a room together, thankfully), but a definite change hath settled over the families.
Well, tomorrow starts the first day of my last quarter. Only 10 weeks until classes will be done, thesis will be written/published, condo packed up (and perhaps bought), and flights will be arranged for Korea. Onward!
Vocab of the day:
Korean: Christmas= 크리스마스
Military: Close of business= COB
And a delightful "Best music of 2009" mashup:
I'm resolving to write every day in 2010, either for my own eyes or here. We shall see what comes of that.
One thing that became very clear throughout the first married holiday is that marriage seems to flip a switch in parents' heads. Somehow in our one month engagement and quasi shotgun wedding, the hubs and I went from children to part of the married club. It was a series of small indicators that shaped this realization- fewer questions asked, more of the "us big people" tone and conversation. I don't think these things were done consciously (other than having a room together, thankfully), but a definite change hath settled over the families.
Well, tomorrow starts the first day of my last quarter. Only 10 weeks until classes will be done, thesis will be written/published, condo packed up (and perhaps bought), and flights will be arranged for Korea. Onward!
Vocab of the day:
Korean: Christmas= 크리스마스
Military: Close of business= COB
And a delightful "Best music of 2009" mashup:
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