The story of military stories

Well, took a day off yesterday but wrote elsewhere to my boo. I think the roughly daily goal is a good one and the writing is a good habit- I had a summary to write for work today and it quite fell from my fingertips with little effort.

On to today's quandry: military stories, including dramas, series, books, true stories, the works. I am still early in my collecting of military stories, but of those I've amassed so far, there's a very similar setup: range of women (sometimes men) who are married to various stations in the military from various places, now all forced to do this strange military thing. Usual characters:

• The high ranking wife. Generally older, caring and understanding, but strong. All about the hubby's career and can be cutthroat if something threatens said career.
• Somebody slightly diverse. An ethnic minority, military husband, somebody other than the white women that overrun the military spouse ranks. This person acts mostly like everyone else, but every now and again reminds us that they're diverse (a product of the authors or the military? who knows.)
  
• A spouse of a serviceperson with an intriguing, dangerous job. The spouse is an intelligence agent, secret mission specialist, or something that requires him(her) to become a royal jerk "due to the stress." Wifey (hubby) puts up with this to "serve their country."
• Spouse who used to work, loved their work and now is told he/she shouldn't. This can also be all characters.
  
• The wife with a dark side. Hubby is abusive, she does drugs, they have money problems, she has an affair from the past that won't go away, or he a kid that she pretends isn't his. She usually does this mostly on her own but may let in a few of our other leading characters, strengthening their camaraderie in shared secretiveness.
• Poor, low ranking wife. Usually loud, savvy and very loveable. The story gets higher plotmarks if she married the man after knowing him, say, 30 minutes.
  

Some of the characters can be combined- say the abusive husband in special forces or the high ranking wife with a secret. But in some combination they always seem to be there. It is usually through this last character, the downhome, endearingly ignorant wife (I've yet to find a story where this character is a husband) that the culture of the military is explained to the untrained audience. This wife makes most of the etiquette and protocol faux pas possible without actually getting their husband dismissed, but because of this unknowing rebellion the audience empathizes with the plight of the poor unknowing woman fed to the rabble of those who follow the rules and like it.

There's some sense in structuring a story this way- the audience is let in on how things should be from different perspectives, shown what's acceptable and what's not, and given a character to root for regardless of your personal views toward the military. My only question is- am I missing stories where relatively educated folks grapple with the customs and rules of the military? Quite likely this is just my bias, but it would be a helpful parable of even a slightly different type of protagonist. It's not because our protypical heroine isn't educated that she fumbles through her introduction to the military, it's because it's a different and sometimes confusing world, regardless of where you've been before.
 Watch out, maybe I'll write that story someday.

Vocab of the day:
Korean: 연극 = drama
Military: FOW= family of weapons (few acronyms having to do with the person-based family, but this seemed appropriate)